The seat of Purity

<I Feel Pretty>, a thought about self-esteem,

The movie, <I feel pretty>

A few days ago, I saw a movie called <I feel Pretty>(2018) in the theater. It was a movie that made me think about my main concern, self-esteem. The heroine of the movie was an ordinary woman close to fat and ugly. Her self-esteem was not that high. The beautiful and slender women on the street were the subjects of her longing, and her desire was to be as beautiful as anything else. One day, in order to make her beautiful, She started spinning, but the tool was broken during the spinning, and she was struck and hit her head. But what happened? Her appearance has not changed, but she sees herself as beautiful as anything in her eyes. Then her self-esteem seems to be poking into the sky and her speech and behavior are also wonderful, humorous and confident. In the meantime, She makes boyfriend and she turns into a very attractive woman to win a prize in her workplace. However, one day, her head hit on a transparent glass wall and returned to her original self again. Then she feel too shabby when she look at her appearance, avoiding her boyfriend and avoiding her job. What happened to the result? She originally came back to her, but she has the last courage. And in front of a lot of people, she compares her picture of high self-esteem with one of old self-esteem, and she realizes the incredible fact. When she looked at her beautifully and confidently by putting something in her eyes, her appearance had not changed. Thing to change was herself. It was her own change. It was not a change of appearance. Meanwhile, the movie ends with shoutings by the heroine who is spinning hard and the trainer trying to make the mood up. "Whether spiritual or physical or emotional. Miracle happens. "

What changes did the miracle take place? Because it's not a change in her appearance, it's not a physical change. It's not an emotional change because she does not look so good because she's feeling up. I guess it's a spiritual change that the movie wants to say.

The rise of self-esteem is possible through spiritual change

Self-esteem is neither a matter of emotion nor a problem of reason. It is not just a problem that the body has changed. Some people read psychology books and self - help books but they do not solve the problem of self-esteem. I think the problem of self - esteem is a spiritual problem. I think that the confidence in myself that comes from trusting in God changes our self-esteem.

I experienced this personally. As I graduated from college and suffered from disappointment, my self-esteem was low. I still remember how much I felt about my self-confidence and self-esteem by accepting Christian faith and believing in God. At that time, I had experience of putting something in my eyes like the protagonist of this movie. One day I prayed hard and I looked up and I saw myself and the people around me and the environment as beautiful. I myself and the people around me were not all good-looking entertainers in top-notch clothes. It was just ordinary people, but They looked so beautiful. Like an angel.

However, when I experienced the bending of life, there were times when trust in God and trust in me hit bottom and got better again. So, to express my life again, I would like to express it as the history of repetition of the rise and fall of self-esteem.

In conclusion, self-esteem rises when I believe that "I am a spiritual being. I am a child of God. God loves me so much as He sacrifices his only begotten Son to save me. I feel that my self-esteem rises miraculously when I feel that I relate to God and I can find God. Even if our appearance, environment, world has not changed.

I would like to cry out to those who are following the psychology books today, analyzing themselves, looking for comfort, and looking for change. "Meet God"

<Beauty and the Beast>, The way of the beast to win beauty’s heart!

A prince who was cursed by lookism, the Beast

There was a handsome prince who liked beauties much and had a party with beauties all night in a castle of France. One day an aged woman visited the castle, but the prince ill-treated her.  In fact the aged woman was a fairy. The fairy cursed the prince and the castle. The handsome prince became the beast and the people of the castle became furniture. The clue to break this curse is that the beast must find the true love.

This movie seemed me to tell the innocent morality that the true love lies not with externality but internality. Then How could the beast meet the true love?

A normal woman who liked the challenge and adventure and had no fear, the Beauty

One day, the father of beauty dropped in the cursed castle and picked a rose and finally was imprisoned in a castle by the furious beast. The beauty who loved father left to find her father and discovered him locked and got him exiled from the castle. Instead she made herself be shut up in a castle.   

The beauty had a strong sprit adventure in character and always read books and had a dream about another world and thought herself as a specialty even though she was from the small village.

So she was not frightened and not pressed by facing with the beast. And She fell in attraction of magic of all things cursed by the fairy in the castle.

And she opened her heart to the beast more and more.

Until the beast let the beauty’s heart opened

1. The brevity to save her

As the beauty could not be open-hearted to the beast and finally escaped from the castle, she had a risk surrounded by wolves. At that moment the beast came out and saved her from the wolves and he was injured by a wolf. 

2. The media of communication, the book

As she nursed the beast, she found out that she could communicate with him by chance. The thing that can make them communicate with each other was the Literature, the work of Shakespeare. And he led her to his secret library that had amounts of books. So the beauty came to respect him.

3. The heart considering lover’s family prior to self-interest

In the meantime the beauty opened her heart to the beast, he asked her whether she could be happy in this castle or not. But She told him that she missed her father and her family. Then the beast used a magic and took her to the day in her infant, she knew that her mother died from fest and the father left his wife to save his daughter. The beauty understood her father more and missed more, So the beast made her see the father through the magic mirror. But her father fell in risk. The beast let her leave from the castle although the beast had a chance to find the true love. He thought that she might never get back to him.

The another man who fell in Lookism and Narcissism, Caston

The another man came out in the movie who loved beauties and was selfish guy. His name was Caston. Caston followed the beauty but she did not like him and also the beauty’s father did not like him. And finally he did harm to her father and also tried to make the beauty shut up in the hospital as a crazy girl and rushed to the castle with village people to kill the beast.

At last the Caston shoot the gun to the beast and the beast came to die.

The beauty could barely escaped from it and ran to the beast and shed tears to see the dying beast and confessed to love him and kissed him.

Then the dying things and the things to come to stop were vibrant and were alive from being disenchanted and the beast was changed into the handsome prince, who stood up in front of her. The beauty confirmed that the prince was the beast to see his eyes. In the end, All things and all people came to be happy in the movie.

This movie gave me a lesson that the inwardness was more important than the outwardness, But I was sorry that the end of this movie told me that the most important thing was the appearance because the beast became too much handsome prince. How great the beast itself is! The beast was so brave that can save lover’s life and so capable that can consider lover’s family and so social that can communicate with lover. The most significant thing is to win the lover’s heart.

These days, the lookism is popular among the young people. But the appearance let our heart in vain. We realized it later. So I wanted most women to know that the precious thing is not the handsome prince but the beast itself to get the beauty’s mind. It is better not to expect my man to become the handsome guy riding a white horse.