Commonplaceness and Especialness

 

 

 

 

Between Commonplaceness and Especialness

Usually we think ourselves as the average person. So the president, No Tae Woo won in the election with catch phrase, 'Average Person'. The thinking that the president is also the one of common people move many people. However, the standard of common person is various. We usually consider the ordinary person think like these, 'I am the one of many people, I have the common sense, I know the moral and ethic, I am not rich, also not poor'. The person who think like these is represented for commonplaceness.

However, the mentality of man is odd, Because man asserts himself/herself to be a person of mediocrity but he/she wants to be different. That is, he/she wants to be regarded as someone special. Perhaps no one dislike to be received as VIP treatment. So we are very eager to equip with speck(specification-mean something as like these, requirement, qualification, scholarship among the job seeker) and to succeed in the world for Especialness. And we desire to have brand or to try to be become a unique brand. Also we select a certain brand and stick to that one which shows our own uniqueness.

  

Expecting the Especialness

The following saying is my funny story. So far I am not married, but I have explanation for not marriage. Even an old maid has a word.

I, who am not a born christian, have expectation that my life partner has something special since believing in Jesus Christ. I didn't want rich guy, prominent male but just have unexplainable expectation about something special after I received Jesus as my lord. I have many chances to meet guys because of son of Daddy's friends, friends of my brothers, friends of my cousins, friends of my friends. However I was not satisfied with the meeting. There are reasons why I was not satisfied. That guy is no because he didn't believe in Jesus. That guy is no, because he was drinking and smoking. That guy is no, because he is too much churchan guy. There are so many reasons but the crucial reason is that I was not attractive to them specially. Of course I was ever rejected from them.

 

One day my cousin who went to Seoul national university introduced a guy, her junior to me. But I said to her I didn't like him. He was a Seoul national university student so he might be pride and he thought that he was special. However he was common person in my eyes. I rejected him. Then my cousin who introduced him to me call me, "Young Mi, commonplaceness is the best. Man who is something like flat is good",

I remember that word even now. Common and flat guy, Couldn't I see the especialness in the commonplaceness and flatness. Anyway, I will not give up the hope that the specially attractive man comes up to me. Someone think to oneself "She doesn't know better, maybe she can't marry". Don't be serious.

   

Specialness is being myself

Then what is the specialness? We think that as heroic, great, external thing. So we become exceptional from my career, academic clique, my specification. However the report said that these days there is no discrimination in an oral test, the someone who has the own story, that is the special characteristic, can pass the test.

I read the book, The book said that the feature of this era is branding man. As the well branding goods will be selected among numerous goods. To appeal ourselves among a lot of people, we have to make ourselves brand. To make ourselves brand, the author commented, we have to know what we are, that is our characteristic, and to develop and extend it. So to develop and extend our characteristic, we have to read the book and study the specialized field, still more to try to have knowledge from experience. And author said, to do our best and to have patience because this brand doesn't make as slick as nothing at all.

   

From Commonplaceness to Especialness

All things in the world have the meaning. We try to find special meaning as living everyday life. We search for my own thing in the ordinary and share it through blog, facebook, SNS. We desire it to be emphasized with other people and feel self-esteem.

As a matter of fact, our ordinary is filled with meanings. One day, as drinking a cup of coffee with my peer, I think like this: The meaning that I drink a cup of coffee with my peer everyday is the thing that I have the job in this bad times and I don't be left out in the cold because of my being with peer and I have the extra in material and time to drink a cup of coffee. This is an amazing grace. The meaning of a cup of coffee brings me happiness and improve my self-esteem. So From commonplaceness to especialness is up to give meaning. The discovery of the meaning in ordinary things makes us special thing.