My own story about Cooked Rice

 

My own story about Cooked Rice

 

We say sometimes that Korean People live with the power of Cooked Rice. We do not tolerate without Cooked rice. The mission of our mother at the age of over 80 was to feed their husband and children. My mother risked her life to feed her children while she was raising 4 children. She packed 10 lunches for her children and I grizzled not to eat Cooked rice but she appeased me but I grumbled about meals despite of her appeasing, she beat me and she finally gave money in order to feed me and to be spoon-fed     

How do I forget and hate such mother? But sometimes I have a grudge for such my mother as the same woman because we live in a different era and have different view of value. Sometimes I feel heavy to my mother and also my mother’s generation.

Why the meals are so important to my mom? Why the mission of woman is only housework and care represented by cooked rice? Why don’t they know the fact that the instinct of care and sacrifice of woman becomes disturbance in order that a woman comes to be a leader in society of organization?    

Why do my mother’s generation judge the women by the meals? Saying in details, they think whether setting table or not, whether cooking food or not, and whether feeding or not are just all for women.  

There are two brothers married with good women in my family but they fight with each other sometimes, When I hear that, I can forgive and understand my sisters-in-law as the same woman. But my mother burst to angry and said, “my sons are pity because their wife even do not make the meal for their husband.” Only the basis of judgment of my mom is meal.

I hope to be actualized my dream after finishing Ph.D. But the request of my mom for me is that I must make the meal and be kind to my mother-in-law and to be humble. That’s all.

However I experienced through several failures the fact that I was easy woman to suffer by men and I had character to fit the prey of men because of settling down to such education of my mom and I felt that the way of thinking of my mom’s generation pressed and discouraged many young women and interrupted young women to be leader.   

 So most women carried out serving men in society of organization, which means making the meal and feeding, by figurative expression. Even those women were kicked out from it without reasons, most women like my mom’s generation said, “you must be obedient to his superior man and you must be wild and noisy, you must bow low because you are nothing in organization, if you don’t want to lose job.”  The enemy of woman is woman

These kinds of things happened frequently in churches to teach the humbleness and obedience as virtues. Female step, female evangelist, female pastor and the wife of male pastor, all women must bow low to their male pastor.

If male pastor fight with his wife and happen violence, almost women are attacked by males because men are much stronger than women. Though the old women in churches blame the women to be bad.

Where can the women suffering violence of men get consolation?

How depressive the women are to hear those kinds of words in spite of suffering violence.  

We are the same women. But why we, women become not the side of women but the side of men. Why did God create women as such? Can I understand it if I become the age of my mom?

Now the meal, cooked rice do not become the basis of judgment on women. You know the implication of meal, that is cooked rice.

In modern society, the function replacing the cooked rice was developed enormously. A long time ago, the women went to the world. Just home is their world. Their mission was making food and feeding. It was just their economical ability. But now there is no reason that women must endure and obedient men to keep making food and feeding although the women are superior to men in ability and talent. Now many women have the financial power and become leaders to control men. Now we, women help with each other, then we must be stand up fairly and freely in this society like jungle.  

The news said that a woman who took care of his husband and 3 children and worked night duty went to death from overwork. How pity she was!

I want to tell something to my mom’s generation and to all women. Please do not limit the seat of women, do not judge the work of women by making food and feeding. Help each other to widen the seat of women, the area of women in our society and furthermore in the world.

I want to come true those in this era eagerly.